The gauntlet has been thrown! People are in an uproar and you don’t want to ruffle feathers. You know why you should cut your guest list but you just can’t figure out how. Let me share my top 5 favorite tips on how to reign in your guest list.
Just say no. Say no to people asking to invite random acquaintances. It’s ok, they’ll get over it.
Don’t exclude significant others. People in relationships must be invited as one unit. But you are not required to give EVERYONE a plus one. Some people who are single will ask for a plus one just so they don’t have to be alone. Showing up somewhere and not knowing anyone happens sometimes. It’s part of life. You don’t know everyone on the train on your way to work, yet you manage to survive without dragging an unwilling party behind you. They can survive vows and a dinner on their own.
Don’t invite someone simply because they invited you to their own wedding. Weddings are not tit-for-tat, give and take events. To explain it better, relationships change over time. If someone got married 10 years ago and invited you to their affair, you may have lost touch with them or the friendship may not be the same today. Do not feel like you have to invite them to your own wedding. They should have invited you because they wanted you there. Not because they were hoping you’d invite them to your own later.
Don’t write “Smith Family” on the invitation if you’re not inviting the kids. Make sure you note Mr. and Mrs. John Smith so you can avoid having to make that awkward phone call because they wrote “2 High Chairs” under the special dietary needs section.
Be clear about who is and who isn’t invited. Believe it or not, people will try to invite themselves to your wedding or assume they’re invited. If they jokingly (or not) say: “Am I invited?” laughing it off without setting the record straight my set certain expectations. You’ll either have to have a more awkward conversation later on, or if you’re the type to shy away from confrontation, you could end up creating a C list and giving out invitations to people you didn’t really want there to begin with.
Happy affordable planning!